Comments on: The State of Our Union- Part II https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/ just when she thought the world was over she became a beautiful butterfly Mon, 07 Dec 2009 23:25:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Ken https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-30245 Ken Fri, 23 Oct 2009 09:15:57 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-30245 Hi.. You know what, I'm so sad while reading your article, it's just like a confession being with your husband. Well, I'm a man and I do believe that you don't deserve to be treated like that because just a woman how needs to be cherish and care with your man. There are really a lot of guys out their treating their partners so badly. You must find a better man that will treat you well. I hope we can be friends.. Take care.. Hi.. You know what, I’m so sad while reading your article, it’s just like a confession being with your husband. Well, I’m a man and I do believe that you don’t deserve to be treated like that because just a woman how needs to be cherish and care with your man. There are really a lot of guys out their treating their partners so badly. You must find a better man that will treat you well. I hope we can be friends.. Take care..

]]> By: simplewoman https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-29965 simplewoman Fri, 16 Oct 2009 05:36:59 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-29965 Well, your husband wanted to have a slave for pleasure not a wife. That's my perception.. Well, your husband wanted to have a slave for pleasure not a wife. That’s my perception..

]]> By: The Other Mother https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20911 The Other Mother Thu, 05 Mar 2009 16:08:28 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20911 I'm going out on a limb, I believe I know more about you than you think, not because of anything ANYONE has said or told me. I simply know because, I was you. Make justifications, blame self, walk on all those egg shells, dress, clean, don't make waves, he's with me so I can't be that bad and he must love me. Where are YOU?? I'll be blunt and say honestly, half your writing about The Knight was your dream and part fantasy, the tiny bits you could find then built mountains from. YOU have a marriage, YOU have cancer, YOU are a grown woman, YOU have feelings, desires, dreams and a RIGHT to everyone of them. Now put your big girl panties on and quit dilly dallying around the scarey shit!! Take a bite for yourself Butterfly, stand up, be strong, and let it loose, the fallout will come. There ARE soft places to land, and shelter for you. My opinion is The Knight is not so D as he is controlling, BIG difference. He handles you in some of the things he's said and it pisses me off. Out of the ashes that was your first marriage and an all but the fists battle with me we've risen to a level and relationship NO ONE I know understands. I DONT CARE!!! It is what it is and I believe I have a right to say, with you or not, he has often not stood by you, but opressed you. Not to say the man doesn't have good qualities but your are not the reason for the demise of anything in his life. You are his life, or so it should be. Keep your chin up!! My Love, The Other Mother P.S. Congratulations on the weight loss!!! I’m going out on a limb, I believe I know more about you than you think, not because of anything ANYONE has said or told me. I simply know because, I was you. Make justifications, blame self, walk on all those egg shells, dress, clean, don’t make waves, he’s with me so I can’t be that bad and he must love me.
Where are YOU?? I’ll be blunt and say honestly, half your writing about The Knight was your dream and part fantasy, the tiny bits you could find then built mountains from.
YOU have a marriage, YOU have cancer, YOU are a grown woman, YOU have feelings, desires, dreams and a RIGHT to everyone of them. Now put your big girl panties on and quit dilly dallying around the scarey shit!!
Take a bite for yourself Butterfly, stand up, be strong, and let it loose, the fallout will come. There ARE soft places to land, and shelter for you. My opinion is The Knight is not so D as he is controlling, BIG difference. He handles you in some of the things he’s said and it pisses me off.
Out of the ashes that was your first marriage and an all but the fists battle with me we’ve risen to a level and relationship NO ONE I know understands.
I DONT CARE!!! It is what it is and I believe I have a right to say, with you or not, he has often not stood by you, but opressed you. Not to say the man doesn’t have good qualities but your are not the reason for the demise of anything in his life. You are his life, or so it should be.
Keep your chin up!!
My Love,
The Other Mother
P.S.
Congratulations on the weight loss!!!

]]> By: Anonymous https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20845 Anonymous Tue, 03 Mar 2009 11:10:44 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20845 <strong>Mom Blogs - Blogs for Moms...</strong> ... Mom Blogs - Blogs for Moms…

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]]> By: gayle https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20837 gayle Tue, 03 Mar 2009 04:28:34 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20837 As recently as December, you were writing him about how much you loved him. Are you sure you are not jumping the gun? You have both been through a lot. Some counseling may be in order- maybe at a cancer center too (because they understand the stresses). As recently as December, you were writing him about how much you loved him. Are you sure you are not jumping the gun? You have both been through a lot. Some counseling may be in order- maybe at a cancer center too (because they understand the stresses).

]]> By: gillette https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20806 gillette Sun, 01 Mar 2009 18:59:31 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20806 Oh, Sweetie..what happens in marriages? I understand. I've been there. In some ways, am now. I send you copious hugs and the wish that this year many things shift to the fulfillment of your dreams instead of shattering them. <abbr><em>gillette´s last blog post..<a href="http://ex-courtesan.blogspot.com/2009/02/what-is-ugly-cock.html" rel="nofollow">What Is An Ugly Cock?</a></abbr></em> Oh, Sweetie..what happens in marriages? I understand. I’ve been there. In some ways, am now.

I send you copious hugs and the wish that this year many things shift to the fulfillment of your dreams instead of shattering them.

gillette´s last blog post..What Is An Ugly Cock?

]]> By: Kitty https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20747 Kitty Fri, 27 Feb 2009 02:35:52 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20747 You deserve more out of this relationship than you're getting. A lot of men get lazy in their relationships and don't change anything unless the other person demands it or breaks way. =( I really hope you can get him to work on this with you. You deserve more out of this relationship than you’re getting. A lot of men get lazy in their relationships and don’t change anything unless the other person demands it or breaks way. =( I really hope you can get him to work on this with you.

]]> By: Dracona https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20723 Dracona Thu, 26 Feb 2009 03:27:25 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20723 I wish I had some comforting words of advice for you, but I wouldn't know where to begin. I know the sadness of the unused rope and the collar put away in its jeweler's box. Storm has never said the hurtful kinds of things you've been subject to, but the infrequent times we do have sex while she's here I feel as if it's just to shut me up for a while. And yet she says she loves me and wants me... I know I'm a stranger, but sometimes it helps me feel a little better just to know someone out there kind of understands. <abbr><em>Dracona´s last blog post..<a href="http://draconas-lair.blogspot.com/2009/02/feeling-loved-and-cared-for.html" rel="nofollow">Feeling loved and cared for</a></abbr></em> I wish I had some comforting words of advice for you, but I wouldn’t know where to begin. I know the sadness of the unused rope and the collar put away in its jeweler’s box. Storm has never said the hurtful kinds of things you’ve been subject to, but the infrequent times we do have sex while she’s here I feel as if it’s just to shut me up for a while. And yet she says she loves me and wants me…

I know I’m a stranger, but sometimes it helps me feel a little better just to know someone out there kind of understands.

Dracona´s last blog post..Feeling loved and cared for

]]> By: faery https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20714 faery Wed, 25 Feb 2009 16:28:16 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20714 It always feels so weird to respond to such personal posts, while you know the person who wrote it doesn't even know you. But I'm going to do it anyway. Can I hug you? This sounds so... sad. And it also sounds like there is something wrong there. Let me rephrase that. It sounds like he is doing something wrong there. I suppose you have talked about it, I suppose you have tried to change things, but it didn't. The things he now says to you is plain emotional abuse, if you ask me. I don't understand why you went on marying him, if (important!) stuff like this was not going as you wanted from the start, but I don't get marriage in America (right?) anyway. I cannot make your choices, but you have to make one in the coming time. Or to change the situation you're in completely so you can be you again, or to step out of the situation. I wish you all the luck and succes and everything! It always feels so weird to respond to such personal posts, while you know the person who wrote it doesn’t even know you. But I’m going to do it anyway.

Can I hug you? This sounds so… sad. And it also sounds like there is something wrong there. Let me rephrase that. It sounds like he is doing something wrong there. I suppose you have talked about it, I suppose you have tried to change things, but it didn’t. The things he now says to you is plain emotional abuse, if you ask me. I don’t understand why you went on marying him, if (important!) stuff like this was not going as you wanted from the start, but I don’t get marriage in America (right?) anyway. I cannot make your choices, but you have to make one in the coming time. Or to change the situation you’re in completely so you can be you again, or to step out of the situation.

I wish you all the luck and succes and everything!

]]> By: dharma https://thebutterflytemptress.com/2009/02/the-state-of-our-union-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-20713 dharma Wed, 25 Feb 2009 15:59:46 +0000 https://thebutterflytemptress.com/?p=1775#comment-20713 He wanted/wants a 50's style housewife and that's the sum of it. He doesn't want a partner, not even a submissive one. He wants a maid, he wants someone he can put down to feel big. You deserve better than this, really you do. Seek out support and help, learn about your options and move on. Sorry to be so blunt but no one should put up with the things I've read in just a few entries and your tweets. <abbr><em>dharma´s last blog post..<a href="http://dharmarants.blogspot.com/2009/01/winter-notes.html" rel="nofollow">Winter Notes</a></abbr></em> He wanted/wants a 50’s style housewife and that’s the sum of it. He doesn’t want a partner, not even a submissive one. He wants a maid, he wants someone he can put down to feel big. You deserve better than this, really you do. Seek out support and help, learn about your options and move on. Sorry to be so blunt but no one should put up with the things I’ve read in just a few entries and your tweets.

dharma´s last blog post..Winter Notes

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